Should I take the new job? Should I go abroad to study? Throughout our lives, whether we like it or not, we are always confronted with stressful situations and choices. The constant fear comes from what is called "paralysis by analysis"- worrying about making wrong choices.
We may have made bad choices and quite often regret when we have realized the mistake later. That's part of - being human. What makes you feel unsure and stressed? Have you experienced past failures? The mere thought of making the wrong choices can make one feel stressed. Some of us avoid making decisions simply because we have had failures in the past and we fear facing regrets. Our beliefs, capabilities, as well as how we see the outside world and the external forces that play a part, affect what we might find possible. These beliefs, in turn, affect our choices. From our choice, we take action, and our action finally determines the results.
Some people go through a psychological paralysis "I can't handle a this," "this is going to be tough." "I wish I didn't have to make this decision" - how many times your subconscious or conscious mind spelled out these phrases? The delay in deciding makes you stress and worry more. You defer action and keep thinking that you should choose but are unable to, and this, in turn, creates a detrimental cycle. You somehow get stuck in the past and predict you can't deal in future.
So what can you do to avoid feeling sick when presented with a difficult choice?
At the end of the day, the decision was right because you took the time to plan and consider every option.