Thinking about giving him/her the key to your home is both as terrifying as it is exciting. Since it is opening the door to a new level of commitment and intimacy. Apart from that, all the advice you have been receiving from friends and family; deciding if you & your bae are ready to share a key can be somewhat of confusing. Each and every relationship unfolds at its own pace; it is vital to find the perfect time to give your boyfriend or girlfriend the key. In other words, it is a decision that should be based on the stage of your relationship, or how the relationship is unfolding, rather than the length of time you have been together.
Here's When To Give Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend A Key To Your Home.
Below are couples of recommendations to base your decision on the right time to give your partner the key to your home.
This gives people dating enough time to cycle around most of life's struggles that could bring out challenges in a relationship. Most people believe that committing to sharing a space with a partner is a much bigger challenge than planning for an actual wedding, which is why it is super important to form an initial bond between each other before making the plunge. That way, it is easy to lock down some fundamentals like what space the other partner will occupy with his/her few stuff, etc.
I'm not just talking about his/her favorite color or how he/she takes his/her coffee. You need to understand the nuances of their preferred lifestyle. Get to know his/her quirks and habits. These are some of the things I have seen erupt into small fights or even separation. Having some base knowledge of some things like how they are with their cleanliness, or their privacy considerations, & whether you can live with such things can offer help in making an informed decision.
If she/he seems too anxious or dependant on the relationship or is happy that you will not be getting usual visits from your friends as a result of him/her getting access to your home, you are both in trouble. If giving your boyfriend or girlfriend the key to your home results in a significant loss of your independence, that is the onset of a relationship struggle.
Sliding into a major decision without any forethought does not bode well for a future of the relationship. Intentions, values, and goals should often be discussed first.
If you may be spending three or four nights per week together, you should be getting some sense of what it is like to spend much time with your partner before you give him/her the key.
Ultimately, deciding to give your partner the key should be as a result of what your heart wants and what brings you happiness, not waiting till you think it has been long enough to give him/her the key. Giving your partner the key to your home and spending more time together is a nice way to find out whether this person is right for you. You get to plan and discuss every potential situation that may cause conflict in the relationship.
A true compatibility will not be uncovered until you are sharing space more often.