If you ask yourself am I a Narcissist, it’s pretty safe to say you’re not, quite simply because a narcissist wouldn’t truly ask that question of themselves as they think there is nothing wrong with them and their behavior.
True narcissists generally have no idea what narcissism is, they don’t care about their behavior, in fact they would think there is nothing wrong with it.
If you find yourself worrying if you could be a narcissist it could be that you are spending time around one or more and start to question your own behavior.
You can ask yourself these questions and answer them honestly to find which ones are true about yourself:
- I have little empathy for others
- I become angry or depressed if I am not the centre of attention
- I have to win and hate to lose
- I rarely apologize
- I am almost never wrong
- I am better than everybody else
- I seek to manipulate others for my own ends
- I have only superficial relationships
- I am obsessed with status, wealth, power, and appearance
- I find fault with nearly everyone around me
- I treat others in condescending ways
- I deserve special treatment
- I violate others’ rights and privacy whenever it suits me
- I delight in spoiling others’ good moods
- I hold grudges over even minor incidents
- I listen impatiently when others talk about themselves because I want the topic to be about me
- I bully others to get what I want
- I get away with things that others consider wrong because I am cleverer than everyone else
- I am infuriated when I feel slighted or disrespected
- Other people envy me and want what I have
If you answered yes to less than six, you do not have a narcissistic personality disorder.
If you answered yes to more than seven, you may have unhealthy narcissism.
You can seek out a qualified therapist for consultation, doing that alone will tell you that any narcissistic tendencies are minor, as narcissists tend to not seek help as they truly believe there is nothing wrong with them, so therefore do not require help.
Psych central have an online test you can take for free and it has been commended by the medical profession as accurate. You can find it here.
You can also use these questions and test to discover if you are too closely involved with someone who is a narcissist.