I’m still in my 20’s (late 20's) but have a pretty specific taste in men that has developed like a good wine. When it comes to men I want someone who is intellectually stimulating and someone who’s actually driven and has a real passion for life, finding that in anyone within my age bracket has become almost impossible so I end up going up an age bracket or two.
What I have found in my friends though is that people in the under 25’s generation end their relationships so quickly because of one very simple thing, they have so many more options than what their parents and grandparents had.
When you think about it there are so many social media apps and sites that they have such a variety to meet potential partners that so many other generations didn’t. The other main factor is that those within the age bracket are looking for instant gratification. Yes I do want my new iPhone now but to be honest, I actually want my man matured and without the glitches please!
Talking to some of my friends in the older generations, there was a time when people actually to get to know people, build friendships or took their time while dating. This type of “old school” dating gave people the chance to really get to know each-other, if they did end up dating they would know what they were getting into.
In todays day and age, everything is about instant gratification, I mean look at the self-checkouts, we can download music in an instant and stream movies online, or best of all you can even order online and get it the very next day. Being that this generation has grown up in this culture how can you expect them to spend time cultivating REAL relationships?
This generation is entering into relationships quicker than they should have in the hopes of instant happiness and end it because the order they placed…wasn’t as they expected. This generation thinks the grass is always greener on the other side, it will take them time to realise that they need to give one person the attention they deserve to have a relationship that lasts more than just a few months because in the end they will definitely want to find that one person who will stick around with them and if they don’t establish the right foundation, they will end up being the order that wasn’t as described!
In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.
While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.
You, or anyone else for that matter, deserve to be in a relationship that is secure and free from manipulation based on your insecurities.
Love is described as having matured when the partners are calm, confident and unafraid. When you are certain of your partner’s love and respect for you, and you have the same to offer, then nothing should worry you.
So, if you come across such a relationship, hold on tightly. Many people let go and regretted it all their lives. Don’t be among them.