Love - an emotion that is so simple and fulfilling, yet so complicated and confusing.
Saying you love someone else is easy; but do you love yourself?
That is the greatest challenge you might ever face. And no, self-love is very different from narcissism.
If anything the two words are complete opposites when you consider that a person who loves themselves can love another person very deeply; while a narcissist cannot afford to spare an affectionate emotion for another human being.
People need to love themselves more to be more loving towards others.
And don't get it twisted, giving in to your depraved lusts or some other temptation does not amount to self-love.
When you love yourself, you are careful about what you do and where you end up in life; you have to reach deeper and find meaning and self-worth within yourself.
Self-love means having the courage and respecting yourself to the point of going after what can make you happy, whether it be a dream or an aspiration.
But that is not an approach many women make.
What they do instead is put aside their dreams and aspiration and let someone else take the first priority in their lives. No wonder many of them end up being taken advantage of emotionally and even physically, and feel unloved and undervalued.
Loving yourself will involve taking a risk and putting your feelings and emotions on the line. And yes, there might be heartbreak or so along the way.
But all things considered, there is a lesson to be learned from a heartbreak. When you take it in the right spirit, you will understand that you deserve better, and realize that you have had a lucky chance to do better by your standards.
Heartbreak does not mean the world is cold and uncaring; but that there is a lot of love in the world, and plenty of it to go around.
It is this reality that makes heartbreaks bearable, and not the ugly and disruptive things many women have been made to believe they are.
But to realize this beautiful truth, you have to love yourself first.
Thanks to self-love, I can believe in love. And I believe that you will as well once you take the time to know and love yourself.
That lasting relationship founded on love starts from within.
It is by first loving yourself that you can find the love of your life, someone you can build the life of your dreams with, and enjoy many years of happiness together.
At the end of the day, what we want is love in who we are, the things we cherish, our friends and families, and everything else in our lives. Even in the midst of our greatest fears, what we desire the most is that love will endure.
To find the love of your life, you have to consider yourself the love of your life first.
Don’t expect anyone to love you more than you love yourself. So, if you want someone who loves you to bits, love yourself to bits first.
This will also teach you what it takes to truly love another human being.
Sure, loving yourself might not be so easy at first, since love is such an alien concept. But here are some tips to help you along.
1. Let go of anything you cannot control.
2. Be kinder to yourself.
3. Allow yourself to feel, regardless of the feelings.
4. Forgive yourself.
5. Learn to see the good side of things.
6. Find and seek what inspires you and keeps you going.
7. Be your favorite person.
8. Spend your time with the right people.
9. Keep trying.
10. Get out of your comfort zone.
11. Spend quality time with yourself.
12. Learn to say no, and yes, when necessary.
13. Be content with where you are in life at the moment.
14. Love yourself as you would love to be loved.
And finally, don’t forget to keep trying harder than you ever have before. Keep going, keep dreaming and be sure to love yourself before you try to love someone else.