So you have been in this relationship for a while and you actually think he or she’s the “one”. The next thing on the list is probably getting married and settling down. If you are thinking of such a thing let me burst your bubble, getting married might be the worst decision you will ever make in your life.
There are several reasons why I am saying so and avoiding marriage is probably one of the smartest decisions you will ever make-read on to find out why.
Back in the days, it used to be necessary to get married. Families would barter land and money in exchange for a maiden simply to ensure that the futures of the women being married off were bright, or that was what they believed. In this day and age, probably the only advantage is the tax relief, so if that is the reason why you want to commit yourself, then go ahead.
You can always walk away from a relationship once it is obviously over. However, you can't do that in a marriage without a valid reason according to the law. Ending a marriage becomes more intense and is probably why most people just opt to stay in unhappy marriages, trying to make things work out. Well, no thanks.
The average American wedding costs about $30,000 and that’s enough reason to just forego this ceremony. Not unless you are stinking rich or just not into a big wedding, you might have to elope and forget the idea of a Cinderella wedding. It will make you end up in unnecessary debt that will haunt you in life. This is money that you would have probably spent on investments and yielded good returns.
Divorces are expensive as hell. Imagine having to go through a divorce, hefty legal fees await you, not to mention child maintenance and a spouse who wants half of everything you ever worked for in your entire life. Not to forget the money that you will need to move into another apartment and start all over again. Is it really worth it?
If you are still in that school of thought that a mere piece of paper is going to be the one to cement your relationship forever, then you need to think twice. Get real with yourself please. If the two of you are in love and want to build a life together, just go ahead and do it! A piece of paper is not what you need to make your thing last.
There are healthy relationships where you actually don’t get to lose your individuality or self-independence. However, being someone’s spouse you will automatically start being referred to as Mrs. So-and-so. Your self-identity begins fading away into the background and before you know it, your awesome self is completely gone. Think about it.