I’ve dated men where this has actually happened, I have dished out the compliments and yet received nothing in return. It always made me wonder whether they actually felt anything for me and even more so made me feel so self conscious. If you’re anything like me you will be wondering this too, I think it’s a pretty sane thing to wonder.
After the usual girl talks I have found that there are guys who actually act like they don’t care in order to make a girl insecure, they play games just as they say we do. So pretty much by not complimenting you he is trying to ensure that you will keep thinking about him, the more you think about him though the more you wonder why you aren’t being complimented.
Situations like this put him in complete control, he knows that keep control of the relationship just by not telling you what you want to hear. Being female I definitely think it is cruel however chatting with a few of my male friends I have found that this method does work for them. If a guy isn’t complimenting you there is actually a chance he likes you but is just playing games, unfortunately he knows he is winning the game when he sees what it is doing to you.
You are unknowingly playing the game with him because you want to hear from him more, you want to see his gorgeous smile that he seldom shows, you want him to say kind words to you and you want to be acknowledged and the more he deprives you of these things the more you want them from him. All of the things above make you feel like you matter to him so its like you are putty in his hands, it’s a very powerful and effective game that men who are really good at getting girls play because it works.
As a self-respecting woman you need to ask yourself if you like him enough to put up with this, is getting a compliment worth going through all of this drama? If it isn’t you’re better of getting out before you get too involved.
The part that really sucks about all of this though is that a lot of men out there that use this method are more interested in the method that the woman, if they do end up dating you they will control you emotionally and know how to manipulate you, is being that vulnerable to someone worth it?
What I have seen is so many women who stick it out because they like the person at heart of all of these game and their sense of self-worth becomes completely tied up in the person playing the games and what bones they wanted to throw them. What a lot of these girls don’t realise is that they got really low when it was too late and they ended up depressed and not liking themselves anymore.
When it comes to these kind of men, don’t let them drain your soul and definitely don’t let them take away your self-worth because one day they may walk away and you’re only left with you and YOU are beautiful.
But it’s very important not to put the focus on the fact that the teenager is upset. Instead, let them feel or know that they have a right to be upset, as that is the only way to get to a point where a solution to the problem would be welcome or even useful.
Overreacting will only make the crisis worse. So, when your teenage child is having a breakdown, it is not time to issue threats or ultimatums. Trying to offer solutions, however well-intended, will not help either.
Your child is not broken, he/she is slowly recreating who they are so that they can finally mature.
So, when you see a teen in a crisis, the first thing you should do is calm them down. Everything else comes later.