A woman who doesn't think she's good enough will always do all that it takes to show her love. She will try her best to give everything within her. She will try to solve other people's problems while her problems pile up. She empathizes with the less fortunate around her, and her character and grace stand out from that of her peers, but she doesn't notice it.
Loving that kind of a girl is not easy. Her grace and greatness shine brighter than anything else, but the dark side is that she doesn't believe in herself. She always doubts herself and thinks she is worthless. She lives all her life trying to prove that she is good enough and deserves love from people around her.
She's the kind of girl who will love you with all of her body, soul, and heart. She will pour out all she has just to please you. Despite all that she does, she will think that you won't love or appreciate her for being herself. She always underestimates herself and thinks she is less of a human. In her own eyes, she is never good enough for anyone or anything.
To her, there is always something missing. There is always something wrong with her. She's always anxious and worried that she could do something wrong that will shatter her world, even when she hasn't done anything wrong. She lives in fear and self-doubt.
To love this kind of a woman, you need to be different. Be prepared to enter a relationship and give all of your love to her. If you consistently shower her with love, she is going to heal and start appreciating herself more. She will look past her past, leave behind all the bitterness and stop doubting herself. She will begin to love and appreciate herself thanks to your love.
When you approach her in any way, you have to be patient. You must understand that like any other human being, she is not perfect. She might hurt you during her dark times, understand that this is the time you need to stick by her side the most. You need to be strong for her.
If your love is sincere and you respect her, she will start to leave behind the shadow of doubt that lies over her. With your love as her source of strength and inspiration, she will stand strong and face her inside demons. She will wash away all the doubts and low self-esteem because you show her that you love her for everything she is. She will finally recognize her sparkle and all she is capable of releasing and see herself as a gem.
However, it won't take her a short time to reach security. You need to be patient and stand with her during all of her dark moments. Before she gets to the level of standing strong and appreciating herself, you need to be there for her and keep loving her. Show her that you will love her no matter what. Just be patient with her.
Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.
But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.
You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.
Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.
It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.