True Love Does Exist, But It's Not Worth Fighting For

It is true. It's not worth fighting for love! You probably did not want to hear that, I know, But it is true. I also say: To fight love hurts love!

It all sounds much bleaker than it is. Not fighting for love does not necessarily mean giving up and doing nothing. On the contrary, It means something much better to do. Something that really increases the chances of your love. Not to fight does not mean that you should give up love. Love is something that should not include fighting, in any form.

That's why I'm showing you here why fighting for love is useless and what you should do instead:

1. Fighting is against love!

Love in my eyes means to allow someone to be unconditionally themselves, to support them and accept them in any way, putting aside your selfish wants to think about the person you love more.

When you fight for love, you act against all these attributes of love and are not fighting with it, but against your love!

2. To fight for love is selfish!

Who fights, represents interests. Correct?

He represents his own interests. Correct?

If he represents his own interests, then he is not interested in the interests of others.  If he does not care about the other's interests and just wants to enforce his own interests, how can he talk about really loving another?

If you are fighting to make something work with someone who doesn't necessarily want you, it is selfish, because you are out for your own feelings only. You should not have to fight for love.

Love is something that comes natural to humans, but some who are not ready for it, or some who have not found the right person yet, should not fight for love where it clearly isn't.

People need to understand that the things that come along with love should not hurt, and if you are being hurt in your relationship, then you should not stay with that person.

Fighting and love are basically opposites, in a relationship where there is true love, no outside force nor inside force can effect you. You don't need to fight for your love, because it is already too powerful to be affected.

If you find yourself sacrificing yourself just to make someone love you, that is fighting for love, and you should stop it immediately. Love accepts you as you are and you will never have to impress it. Someone who loves you will accept you in all of your quirky ways without you changing a thing.

Instead of fighting for love, let love come freely without a struggle. Don't allow yourself to struggle and fight for someone's attention, because love will never make you compete. True love is really out there, for everyone, and it will come natural and smooth, without complications.

Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.

But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.

You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.

Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.

So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.

It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.