Break ups! They are way too emotional at times. Sometimes they are fraught with crying, arguments, shouting and even more crying.
In the end, break ups are more often for the best, but too often we are left with unanswered questions.
When we leave a job for pastures new, we are often asked to complete an exit survey by our employer, just think how awesome it would be if we could do the same for the exiting partner in our lives.
Just imagine attaching the survey to an email and asking them to take a few minutes to complete and send back!
One woman called “Katie” has done just that. She has designed an exit survey, and she asks her exes to complete and return to her.
Katie asks what she has done to contribute to the demise of the relationship, and she asks what they have done wrong too.
It’s not a blame and shame survey.
Katie wants to get to the bottom of what went wrong, so the same mistakes are not made again; sounds good solid adulting to me.
The first we heard about Katie’s survey was when her friend Abby posted the document on Twitter.
Katie sends the survey to casual dates as well as her serious long-term relationships. Katie may have admin based her relationships, but she is just working on looking for a long-term relationship that will last.
She has taken the emotions out of a break up, this won’t be ideal for everyone, but it sure seems to be working for Katie.
And no, this does not mean your partner has to agree with everything you say. What we are talking about is the courage to express yourself regardless of what your opinions are.
You can never agree on everything.
The important thing is communication. And it should go both ways. But simple as this relationship requirement is, many couples are torn apart by poor communication.
Understandably, not everyone is an expert at communication, especially when it comes to their feelings. But there is a trick to overcome this. Try not to hold anything on the inside.
Say everything, even things that make you sad or angry. Your partner will not be able to figure out what you are feeling if you don’t express it openly.
In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.
While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.
You, or anyone else for that matter, deserve to be in a relationship that is secure and free from manipulation based on your insecurities.
Love is described as having matured when the partners are calm, confident and unafraid. When you are certain of your partner’s love and respect for you, and you have the same to offer, then nothing should worry you.
So, if you come across such a relationship, hold on tightly. Many people let go and regretted it all their lives. Don’t be among them.