Life has a painful way of teaching us some very valuable lessons. Most of these lessons are for our own good, like when we give men our hearts and they toy with it. The lesson is, you can't fully trust a man, or can you? Yes, granted, there are men out there who don't appreciate our value as women but concluding that all men are this way is being unfair. I can confidently say that there are good men out there. I am privileged enough to have one.
A good man doesn't intimidate you or condemn you. He's always there for you. He makes you feel that when the whole world turns its back on you, he's there waiting for you with wide open arms.
When a man doesn't share his feelings with you, let alone his intentions, that's creepy. It clearly shows that he isn't serious about you. If he does let you in on his plans and allows you into his world, he's a man worth being with.
A man who can openly tell you his fears, weaknesses, struggles and other factors that make him a human being is an ideal lifetime companion. He is realistic and lets you know what to expect when you're with him. Remember, no one is perfect, so you have to hand it to him for being real.
A good man sees the real beauty in you. Even when you do not have makeup on or are in your baggy pajamas, he sees you like the princess you really are. Even with all your annoying habits and flaws, he gladly accepts you because he understands that you're human, and he loves you just like that.
A good man pays attention to the things that matter to you and accepts them no matter how trivial or unreasonable they may be to others. If he's willing to go the extra mile of learning each of them, understanding them and treasuring them just as much as you do, he's a perfect match for you.
A good man is naturally respectful towards others. This doesn't mean he's weak. It means that he knows the beauty of kindness. If he does that for people he barely knows, just think of how much respect he'll show you, a special person who's dear to him.
A man who truly cares about you wants you to be happy. He offers his support for your aspirations and helps you attain them if he can. Since your success doesn't bother him, he won't mind being happy for you when you make it to the top.
A good man genuinely cares about every person who has an important place in your heart because he loves you.
But it’s very important not to put the focus on the fact that the teenager is upset. Instead, let them feel or know that they have a right to be upset, as that is the only way to get to a point where a solution to the problem would be welcome or even useful.
Overreacting will only make the crisis worse. So, when your teenage child is having a breakdown, it is not time to issue threats or ultimatums. Trying to offer solutions, however well-intended, will not help either.
Your child is not broken, he/she is slowly recreating who they are so that they can finally mature.
So, when you see a teen in a crisis, the first thing you should do is calm them down. Everything else comes later.