True love is fun, exciting, and a manifestation of all your cherished fantasies, but it does not come on a silver platter. It takes time and effort to nurture and mold young love into true love. Just like in learning a new skill, you have to hang in there through the tough times. The needed effort to make a relationship work can be overwhelming to those who lack in stamina and perseverance. Fortunately, this problem isn’t permanent; in fact, it gets better with time if you stick it out.
Good relationships aren’t as easy as we perceive them to be. Most of us believe that relationships built on true love should be a walk in the park. "Does it really have to be this hard?" Relationships don’t have to be so difficult that the situation feels like torture. After all, who would want to choose a life that is stuck in a state of constant struggle? Nevertheless, there is always a degree of agony and effort in most relationships. Not everything will come your way easily. You need to be ready to make sacrifices, however big or small, for the sake of the relationship. Fortunately, this situation doesn’t last forever. The phase after all the struggle is usually the happy one.
Great couples are those that experience hardships together and fight through them, never leaving each other’s side.
It is almost a guarantee that most couples will have to face varying challenges and obstacles in their relationship. However, once you make it through the hurdles, the degree of difficulty diminishes significantly. The result is that less energy and effort will be required to nurture and sustain the union. Those couples that manage to get to this stage experience a complete change of attitude. To them, nurturing their relationship becomes a labor of love as opposed to the effort of work they once felt. They learn to embrace and appreciate the sacrifices because they understand that it is a gift and a joyful opportunity to grow their relationship.
Running when things seem to be getting tough is not an option for someone searching for true love. You can’t just decide to pack and go the first instant you experience some friction between you and your partner. The truth is, getting to know and understand a person takes a huge amount of effort. This is because you have to figure out what your spouse is looking for in the relationship. You need to find a way of blending in the different expectations you two had for the relationship. Remember that this won’t work if there is one worker and the other is a slacker. It is through mutual effort from both parties that a relationship is built. If you genuinely care about your partner, this is what you’ll do.
Learn to embrace the hard work. In life, there is nothing valuable that comes without some sort of sacrifice. Even in the gym, you have to stick to a grueling exercise schedule before you achieve your body goals. The same goes for business and politics; there has to be an element of sacrifice. Therefore, don’t expect anything less when it comes to relationships. The secret to getting where you want to be is learning to love the hard work of nurturing your love. It may seem difficult at first but trust me; the fruits of a happy and fulfilling love are well worth the effort.
You, or anyone else for that matter, deserve to be in a relationship that is secure and free from manipulation based on your insecurities.
Love is described as having matured when the partners are calm, confident and unafraid. When you are certain of your partner’s love and respect for you, and you have the same to offer, then nothing should worry you.
So, if you come across such a relationship, hold on tightly. Many people let go and regretted it all their lives. Don’t be among them.