There's a ridiculous saying I heard going around the other day; It went something like, 'If you show your man too much love, it means you're weak.' I shook my head and scoffed at the message that it carried. In most cases, relationships don't end because two people aren't compatible. They end because there's just no effort to keep them strong. My advice is simple; be clingy but give your man some space to breathe. I'll never let anyone talk me out of showing my boyfriend that I love him.
Being clingy to my boyfriend doesn't mean that I'll die if he isn't with me. Heck, we don't get together often, but our love is strong because we give each other some space. If he needs to hang with the boys, I give him his space. I understand the beauty of love and companionship and that's why I share my life with him.
Doing my part to strengthen our relationship has helped me know my boyfriend better. I know all his likes, weaknesses, fears, dreams, goals and everything about him. Being there for him and taking an interest in him are great ways of getting closer to him. I can even tell what he's thinking without him having to say a word.
I've come across women who ask me why the hell I'm letting a man control me. He doesn't control me. I just enjoy being around and pleasing him. When I look at those same women and their relationships, I realize I'm better off. My man truly loves me and always notices when I'm not by his side. Theirs, on the other hand, don't give a damn and prefer their own company.
To me, my man is right most of the time, and I don't hesitate to support him. If he's in the wrong, I openly tell him. If you've got a problem with me because I support my boyfriend, it only means that you lack someone special in your life. Being supportive isn't being clingy. It just shows him that you believe in him.
There's one important lesson that life has taught me; you can't please everyone. Not everyone will congratulate me for maintaining a happy relationship. Many others think that I'm accepting to be inferior to my boyfriend. You're entitled to your own opinion. I know the beautiful bond I have with my man, so your opinion doesn't matter.
The fact that I'm in a relationship doesn't mean my friends, relatives and other people in my life don't matter anymore. When the need arises, I spend time with them as well. He understands as much as I do that we can't always be together and our family and friends need us too.
A functional and strong relationship is a beautiful gift that I never take for granted. I'm thankful for him and how much he loves me as much as I love him. I cherish every moment we spend together. No one knows about tomorrow, so I make the most of every moment that we're together.