From whatever angle you look at it, the events in your life are a mystery. Some things just occur, whether you want it to or not. You may not know when you will find your true love or what they will look like. It just happens. People who experienced it will tell you it was unplanned, that they weren't expecting it.
So, is fate what leads us to meet the love of our life? Is it a predetermined occurrence?
People have different opinions about this. Some believe it's all about your efforts, while others take it to be according to how your life was meant to be. The truth is, there's a mix of both. You need a balanced view to understand each side of the argument. Reason? We cannot tell what will happen, but what we do will usually have an impact.
We may put effort into finding that person who will love us from their heart, but fail to find one. In the same vein, we cannot merely sit and wait for them to come., because of the unpredictability of life, we need to get off our feet and go find our love while expecting fate to be on our side. Which means a lot of traveling, finding new friends, and making use of the opportunities that come up.
It means letting go of the fear that you will be rejected. Being bold in your quest for the person you will love for the rest of your life. While some love stories are born out of "love at first sight" situations, you have to be there for that to happen. You will look across the room at a party and have your eyes meet those of your real love, but can that happen if you did not attend the party in the first place? While some events in our lives are uncontrollable, the steps we take can play a role. They can mean the difference between using or losing opportunities.
In the same vein, we cannot dismiss the issue of fate. Things will happen, whether we like it or not. Your life will take unexpected turns which include finding your love or having them walk out of your life. When two people who were meant to be together meet, there's often that weird feeling. They may find the intense love they have towards each other too much to be true. When you cannot think of anyone except your new-found love, you may fail to understand why.
The doubtful thoughts can be worrying and cause problems to come that may lead to a breakup. The parting ways in such a relationship can be one of the most unbearable in your life. Having finally found true love, it may be hard to come to terms with what's happened.
You do not need to feel that level of devastation. Why? The same way fate brought you together, and you will reunite in a way or time unknown to you. Fate will finally bring you together. It may appear strange, but that's what often happens. So don't worry because if you were meant to be one, your love will eventually find their way back into your life.
But it’s very important not to put the focus on the fact that the teenager is upset. Instead, let them feel or know that they have a right to be upset, as that is the only way to get to a point where a solution to the problem would be welcome or even useful.
Overreacting will only make the crisis worse. So, when your teenage child is having a breakdown, it is not time to issue threats or ultimatums. Trying to offer solutions, however well-intended, will not help either.
Your child is not broken, he/she is slowly recreating who they are so that they can finally mature.
So, when you see a teen in a crisis, the first thing you should do is calm them down. Everything else comes later.