Most people are wrong to assume that a woman needs a man for her life to be easy. It’s not true that we can’t function without a man in our lives.
Sure, men have been cast in the role of protectors and providers for as long as we can remember. And women have been tagged as caregivers. But I’ll be the first to call bullshit on that!
I have seen women who are better providers than the men following them around. And I have seen single moms doing a better job raising their kids than many "normal" families do.
That is why I am so tired of the archaic notion that a woman needs a man for her life to be complete.
She can have him if she wants, but she doesn’t need him.
This goes out to all the ladies out there – you are strong and independent. You just need to believe it.
That’s right, you can take care of yourself and even others. You can live a dream life, and you do not need someone in your life to become the person you dream of becoming one day.
Don’t get me wrong – I am not suggesting you become a jerk and shut or chase people out of your life to prove that you can do things on your own.
I am definitely not against relationships.
My point is this – you can be in a relationship and still be independent because you don’t need a relationship to be complete.
So, don’t give up who you are just to have someone in your life. No relationship is worth that. And honestly, there are plenty of great men out there that will allow you to keep your freedom even when in a relationship with them.
In any case, any relationship that forces you to become someone else is not based on love but selfish control.
It’s not love if someone has to make decisions for you. It’s not love if you have to keep calling to see if your partner is stepping out on you.
Love inspires and motivates. It supports and trusts.
I don’t want to lose myself for the sake of love. And I don’t need a man in my life. It’s a choice to have one.
I will always choose love, obviously, but not at all costs. I will hold to my independence even as I let another person into my life.
A bad relationship is not something I am willing to put up with for the sake of love. The last thing I want for myself is to be forced to live with a man I don’t love because I need him.
I think I am quite fair really. Because I don’t want a man who feels I need him. Who wants to be a burden? Not me, especially not to the man I love.
What I want is a partnership, not a parasitic relationship. We should be joined together by love, not need. That way, our bond will be ever strong, and we will stand by each other no matter what.
I should not always need to be cared for, although there will be moments when that will be necessary.
A relationship where one gives and the other simply takes is not what I want. It should be a two-way street.
We should both put in the effort to make the relationship work, giving the relationship our best.
It won’t be a fairy tale where I have to be rescued by a knight in shining armor. I don’t want a man who comes into my life in order to solve my problems.
On the contrary, I need someone who can support me, motivate me when I am feeling down, and helps me pursue my dreams. Not someone who discourages me from trying and drains my energy.
My dream man should be proud of me and what I do. He should be by my side as we pursue a future together, not another hurdle I have to overcome in life to reach my dreams.