I just turned 30 today. I'm not sharing this news to fish for warm birthday wishes or even presents, so everyone can relax. I have never actually been into any of that, but I’m sharing this wonderful news because I feel truly thankful for another year of life.
Growing up, I kept a journal, and in that journal, I would write about my day, my hopes and dreams, and even the most random of thoughts. I would always hear people going on about the power of writing down goals, and sure enough, when I turned 18, I wrote down a list of things I hoped to achieve before I hit 30. Talk of finishing top of my class in university and enrolling for a post-graduate program, becoming a high-flyer in a fulfilling career and taking home a 6-figure salary, driving the car of my dreams, and at home, a family house with a white picket fence that I would share with a loving husband and our beautiful kids. Yes, younger me knew exactly what she wanted out of this life.
Every year on my birthday, I have a little date with myself. I take that time to look back at the year that has been, the good, the bad and the ugly of it all. Today, 12 years since I made that list, I’m overwhelmed with joy, not because I have achieved everything on there, but because I am very grateful for what I have accomplished. I can confidently say I have checked off some items on that list. I do have a college degree, I own a car, not the best car on the market, but it’s mine, I have a network of awesome friends, a better-than-ok job, and above everything, I’m in near-perfect health.
Over the last few years, I have learned not to stress too much about the things that I don’t have, and what I have not been able to achieve. I made a promise to myself that I will not allow myself to get so caught up and lose myself in the mad rat race of life. I have learned to be content in my situation as is, and that is not in any way to say complacent, because I know there’s still so much out there for me.
For all the best-laid plans from my 18-year old self, I have learned that life is all about making changes along the way. Ideally, I would have achieved all I had set out to, within the desired timelines, except that this is the real world, not the ideal.
As I celebrate and begin this chapter of my life. I choose to do me and be successful at it. I yearn to find contentment in the simple things of life.
I am grateful for the lessons I have learned. I am happy and feel immensely blessed for the present. I look to the future with a sense of renewed hope, certain of a purpose-driven life.
Today, I am older and wiser. Today, I am thankful and celebrate another year of life. Happy birthday to me.
You, or anyone else for that matter, deserve to be in a relationship that is secure and free from manipulation based on your insecurities.
Love is described as having matured when the partners are calm, confident and unafraid. When you are certain of your partner’s love and respect for you, and you have the same to offer, then nothing should worry you.
So, if you come across such a relationship, hold on tightly. Many people let go and regretted it all their lives. Don’t be among them.