Relationships require love, attention, and efforts to keep going. Unfortunately, the efforts from just one person cannot keep it running.
As the chemistry and valued bonding between us faded, I found out how you much you cared about saving it. After all, relationships are about forgiving the flaws and mistakes and putting in efforts to revive the bonding. Honestly, I’m done being the only person to be doing it.
The support, respect, commitment, dedication, and admiration, all that we had in the initial phase of our relationship seems to have disappeared. The change is not an overnight thing, remember that. All throughout my struggles, you failed to pay heed to the damages you have been causing.
Whoever taught you to take things lightly did not mention that relationships had to be taken extra care of. After all that I have done to save this relationship only makes me feel like a one-sided lover and as if we were never in a relationship. How many times did I request you to stop for a moment, take a look at the damage that’s been happening? How many times did I try to explain the insecurities you are giving me? Or at least, do you remember telling me how much love and respect I deserve when we started all of this out.
In the hard times, the actual situations, you failed to ask me what was wrong. You did nothing to make me feel okay. Maybe, you thought if I keep calling you a hundred times and you won’t attend because you were scared to face our relationship issues, I will be fixed. Well, you know what. Well done! You no longer have to invest any time in this relationship.
The way it all started, I never expected I’d be put in a situation wherein I have to decide between my peace of mind and this relationship. Let me be crystal clear. I’m moving away, and the sole reason is that you didn’t give me one to stay here. I accept all the struggles, all the challenges and all that comes along with a relationship but only with you beside me.
Don’t look at me surprised or ask me why my future plans don’t include you. I can’t stand in an illusion and call it a relationship or dream about a future there. After such a long time of treating me like an option you may or may not use, you must be really tired. Take rest from me.
I have to appreciate your talent of making a strong, determined woman feel like she’s not enough.
I have realized how much better life would be without you. I have finally understood all those practical problems you thought that’d ruin the relationship. There is no point wasting time on you. I can’t believe I have been silly enough to have been through the pain for someone who cares the least.
You have broken your promises and hurt me way beyond what I ever could have expected. One day when you understand I was the one and you should have treated me in the right sense, remember you can’t barge into my life anymore and realize someone is treating me well and good.
But it’s very important not to put the focus on the fact that the teenager is upset. Instead, let them feel or know that they have a right to be upset, as that is the only way to get to a point where a solution to the problem would be welcome or even useful.
Overreacting will only make the crisis worse. So, when your teenage child is having a breakdown, it is not time to issue threats or ultimatums. Trying to offer solutions, however well-intended, will not help either.
Your child is not broken, he/she is slowly recreating who they are so that they can finally mature.
So, when you see a teen in a crisis, the first thing you should do is calm them down. Everything else comes later.