Girl! Do not pick up that phone!
You’ve been waiting for his call, haven’t you? You’ve dreamt of this call so many times, the dream actually woke you up and you looked at your phone convinced you had a missed call.
You’ve been waiting for him to call and tell you he has made the biggest mistake of his life, he loves you and needs to see you NOW!
Don’t pick up the phone.
How many times have you tried to move on from him, and he suddenly calls you out of the blue, you stop everything you’re doing and let him come around to see you.
You have given far too much power to him, haven’t you?
He knows all he has to do is call, text, even just turn up and you’ll let him in.
Why do you allow this?
Because he makes you feel loved and wanted right?
Here’s the thing though girl, if you stepped away and gave yourself a week or two with no contact and just thought things through, looking back at all he has done to you and his behavior I guarantee you would suddenly see life in a very different light.
He is a player and you know he is.
He isn’t calling you because he cares, or loves you, he isn’t concerned about how life is for you, he is calling you quite simply for a booty call.
He wants his needs fed!
He’s drunk, didn’t manage to get hooked up, he’s lonely, so he dialled your number and gets what he needs on tap.
You deserve so much better than this don’t you?
You deserve a man who will treat you right, take you out on dates, make life fun and make love to you when he is sober!
To get that kind of man in your life you need to get over self-centred Mr Booty call guy.
Next time his name flashed up on the screen, sit on your fucking hands girl. Do not answer that call.
In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.
While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.
Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.
But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.
You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.
Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.
It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.