Pleasing people is almost a habit some of us develop from a young age. Please our parents, please our lovers, please our friends and so on. Literally every decision made is influenced by our desire to be accepted by everyone and not be judged.
Well fuck it! I quit!
I am done trying to fit in.
From today I am just going to be who I am.
I’m going to stop being a ‘yes’ person.
No more yes to people and things that do not give me purpose.
No more allowing people to walk over my boundaries.
No more allowing myself to be put down by other people just so that they feel better about themselves.
No more making the effort to stay in touch with people who don’t take the time to contact me.
No more keeping quiet on things that matter to me, I will speak up, and I will be heard.
No more giving people the power to feed me with toxicity.
We should all do just that, don’t you think?
Let’s do what makes us happy.
Let’s say ‘NO’ more.
Let’s stop feeling guilty above removing people who are toxic to our lives.
Let’s become extraordinary people.
Let’s speak our truth regardless of who will listen to us.
Let’s be happy, fulfilled people.
If you are happy living your life the way you currently do, good for you.
I’m not and the only way to change that, is change my outlook and who I have in my life.
So, Fuck it! I’m done.
Say hello to the new me.
In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.
While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.
Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.
But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.
You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.
Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.
It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.