Either Choose Her Or Leave Her Alone – Playing Hot & Cold Makes You An Asshole

Don't hurt a woman by stringing her along.

Guys have a habit of spending time with a girl while not being sure if they want to make things serious. They make the girl think that there is something serious, while really nothing permanent is in the plans. If you are this kind of a man, then you are a total asshole.

You might think that this is normal, but it's not. You are just hurting the woman by stringing her along. She might be pretty, sexy and fun to be with, but that doesn't mean you should waste her precious time and dump her later.

If you are not prepared to choose her as the woman of your life, then it will be much better if you leave her alone.

She is not a toy to make you happy. She is a woman who deserves love.

Most men are still clinging to their teenage thoughts that women are supposed to make them happy. If you still think that way, then you're just an immature f*ckboy. Many relationships go through tough situations at some point, and if you think leaving her for another woman will make things better for you, then you better think properly.

If you're still holding on to your immature thoughts, then you will never settle down with another woman because it rains everywhere my friend. Appreciate your woman for who she is. Appreciate her beauty, her generosity, her love for you and her efforts to make you happy.

Don't focus on her flaws because that way you are only hurting her feelings which makes you the biggest fool on the planet. Your endless demands and mysterious behaviors are just turning her into a bitter, insecure and a nagging woman. If you don't make her feel safe with you, even if she loves you, she will feel bitter because you're not treating her the way she deserves.

If you are not going to be there for her, please don't torture her.

Women are very fragile when they fall in love. She may appear strong, independent and self-fulfilled, but that's not what is in her heart. Women are naturally created to want some sense of care and love from a man they love. So, even if she is bold and confident, her inner soul is crushed if you can't love her.

Well, you only have two choices to make when it comes to this. Either love her and care for her the way she deserves or leave her alone and never come back. So if you feel you can't cope with taking care of her, the second option will make you appear more of a man than an asshole.

It's not too much to ask. You should be man enough to let her go and find another man who will treat her better. Stringing to her along when you know very well you can't treat her the way she deserves will not make you a hero. You will only be an asshole who doesn't deserve any woman's love.

4. You’re the caregiver type

In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.

5. You respect your word

While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.

Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.

But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.

You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.

Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.

So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.

It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.