Dear Friend, I’ve Come To A Place Where I’m No Longer Happy, So I’m Leaving You

I simply wasn’t happy in the friendship anymore.

Friendships are hard work. You find yourself at times with certain friends going against what you yourself want to do just to keep them happy and to keep the peace.  

Friendships are just the same as any relationship, they come to an end if something isn’t right. Just know if it does, it’s okay, don’t beat yourself up over it.

Friendships, like any relationship should be a two-way street. You are not there to be your friend’s doormat. When the venting sessions that friends often have becomes more often all about them, with no time for you, it’s time to move on to pastures new.

You are not their puppet and let’s be honest we have enough with our men being assholes to us, without a friend being one too.

Talk with your friend about how you’re feeling, if they shrug it off you know that it’s a done deal, there is no friendship!

True friends make time for you, they listen to how shit things are for you and open the second bottle of wine and settle down to set the world to rights with you.

If your friend isn’t even prepared to have a girl’s night, that isn’t all about them, then why bother spending time with them.

Friends are a crucial part of our lives, we grow with them, go through our greatest achievements as well as our all-time lows with them. They’re the ones we can sit in a room with and say nothing yet remain close and comfortable with.

If your friend doesn’t see or hear your cry for help whether it is out loud or silent then they most certainly are not your friend.

We all get to the point where we are no longer happy associating with some friends, it’s part of our personal growth. Take time away from them first see if that helps, if not then break away for good.  You need to do what is right for you.

Some friends are just not meant to stay in our lives, sad but true. Do what is good for your soul, you have a long life to live, make sure it’s a happy one.

And no, this does not mean your partner has to agree with everything you say. What we are talking about is the courage to express yourself regardless of what your opinions are.

You can never agree on everything.

The important thing is communication. And it should go both ways. But simple as this relationship requirement is, many couples are torn apart by poor communication.

Understandably, not everyone is an expert at communication, especially when it comes to their feelings. But there is a trick to overcome this. Try not to hold anything on the inside.

Say everything, even things that make you sad or angry. Your partner will not be able to figure out what you are feeling if you don’t express it openly.

4. You’re the caregiver type

In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.

5. You respect your word

While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.

Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.

But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.

You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.

Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.

So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.

It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.