2 oz Cherry Vodka
0.5 oz White Rum
1 oz Melon Liqueur
3 oz Sweet and Sour Mix
2 oz Rum (Diplomático Reserva Exclusiva)
1 teaspoon Sugar
2 dashes Bitters
3-4 dashes Water
1 Orange Twist
2 oz Raspberry Liqueur
2 oz Elderflower Liqueur
1 oz Vodka
2 oz Blue Curacao
1 oz Peach Schnapps
0.5 oz Rum
0.5 oz Vodka
0.5 oz Grenadine Syrup
3 oz Ginger Ale
0.5 oz Sugar Syrup
In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.
While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.
Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.
But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.
You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.
Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.
It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.