It's so hard to figure out what the world wants. If you're a quiet woman, people think you're boring and anti-social. If you're naturally loud and energetic, most people think you're high on something. Yep. Trust me. I've been there before. Whatever happened to consideration. Anyway, being loud as a woman has plenty of downsides and here are some of them:
C'mon, being loud doesn't necessarily mean I'm angry. It's just my fun way of expressing myself. Personally, I get bored by people who show no enthusiasm when they speak. I bring something fun and exciting to the table: my passion.
Who does low and where is the fun in that? Being loud brings out the excitement in every conversation. I'm sorry if you can't stand us, but it's just who we are.
Do you speak in a normal voice? Great. Well, we don't. To us, normal is being passionate and letting everyone around us be a part of our conversation. Think of it as sharing.
Not everyone accepts us, As a matter of fact, from the time we were kids, being loud is referred to as 'being noisy.' With time we got used to it and accepted ourselves for who we are. No amount of hate can change us.
Who can't help laughing out loud at a funny scene in a movie or sharing how you feel about a character in the middle of the movie? Shushing us and giving us those rude stares don't shut us up. They only give us the energy to continue.
True story. Don't think we're putting up a show. It's who we really are. Forcing me to speak in a "normal" voice is the worst punishment you can give me. I may try it, but I'll slip back to my good old loud voice in no time.
If you're offended by people who have no boundaries when it comes to laughing loudly, we're not your favorite people. Covering our mouths and giggling isn't our style.
Call us attention seekers, pains in the ass or whatever poison you wish. It doesn't bother us one bit. When we show up at a party, everyone has to know about it. A party isn't lit without some liveliness, That's what we bring.
Our personality drives us to socialize with everyone, including the shy, and their reaction to us is fascinating. I always wonder why they don't share our joy and energy. All they do is nod as we speak with a frightened look on their faces.
Can someone please tell me what an inside voice is? I can't figure it out at all, no matter how hard I try. My loud personality can't relate to it. I get a headache trying to understand what it is.
Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.
But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.
You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.
Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.
It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.