It hurts to love and not be loved back. Some people try forcing a relationship to work even if they know that it never will. No matter how much you try to impress that person, if the two of you are not meant to be, pain will always be the outcome. Should you remain single or be with someone whose soul doesn't match yours?
People believe that you should fight for what you love most, but the truth is you can't fight for someone who wishes you were gone already. The moment you realize that there are too many differences between you, it is better you save your time than be in a relationship that won't work.
Being single does not mean you are a loser, it can be the best choice you ever made in your life. It gives you ample time to find your Mr right. Personally, I love it; it gives me time to accomplish all my plans and desires in life. I can invest my time in myself.
You cannot spend time with someone who has no time for you, its always the job, his siblings or parents, his friends, when will the time for you come in? If there is no talk between the two of you about planning any vacations or even a dinner night out, It's high time you stay alone and enjoy your precious moments.
Our emotions are of great concern in any relationship. There comes a time when you need to talk to someone about your feelings or something else. Why should you waste your time telling someone who doesn't consider you a priority? Others take you for granted; they never appreciate what you do for them, but you should not expect that from your partner.
There is a point when we feel we need to be in a relationship, but we do not consider the type of relationship we want. With such a mentality, we end up with people whom we know that we are not meant to be. We give them that chance to destroy our happiness in the name of being in a relationship. In the end, we curse the person and try justifying why they are not our type. Remember that you saw it early on, but neglected to act on it.
Finding true love is the hardest thing in life, but when will you know that what you have between the two of you is true love? How will you know that person is your type? What is your expectation from that relationship? Which brought you to that relationship? Those are the facts that should be in your mind before you get into any relationship. If boredom and loneliness are what caused you to be in a relationship, you are fooling yourself and wasting your time. Patience is the key to happiness. Being single will give you time to see the real facts and help you make good decisions in the future.
In other words, you like to save people from problems. People come to you when they need someone to rescue them and you help them out every time.
While this is a great virtue, it makes it hard for you to change your mind, even when you should. To avoid feeling like you are a liar, you put yourself through situations you don’t like.
Being put on the spot makes it harder for us to define our boundaries. In our attempts to appease the person giving us their attention, we agree to things without meaning to.
But failure to have boundaries lets other people force us into situations that make us resent them. As long as you think having boundaries makes you rude, the wrong people will continue to put demands on you and you will end up resenting them.
You also need to stop equating having boundaries with lack of compassion. Instead, see it as a way to have self-respect. After all, you wouldn’t go around imposing responsibilities on people if it would make them uncomfortable.
Before anyone can respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
So, don’t be in a rush to give a response the next time someone asks you for a favor. Take your time and think it over and then give an answer you will not regret.
It’s okay to be honest about what’s not okay and what is.