An Open Letter To The Victims Of Narcissists

Hi, how are you doing?

First of all, let me say that I have been where you are.

I can tell you for a fact that I jumped from one narcissist to another. They hide behind the charm, and I could not see it coming until the beast within finally came to the surface.

That is why I mean every word when I tell you I understand very well the damage and destruction a narcissist can do.

I remember the feelings of emptiness, anger, confusion, pain, and sorrow. That was before I finally managed to break loose.

Today, I am here telling you and other victims of these flawed characters that there is hope at the end of the pain-filled tunnel you are going through. I know the problem you are going through is deep, but there is a way out.

You might not realize it, but every time you managed to break away from a narcissist’s arms, you made yourself stronger and more resilient.

So, you have every reason to be hopeful, because the future that awaits you is full of hope.

It could be worth knowing that narcissists are quite drawn to empaths. That is because empaths see the best in people. They are also less likely to put up a fight when someone oversteps their boundaries, which is something narcissists take advantage of in order to control their victims.

But that is hardly the purpose of this letter. We all know narcissists and the damage that they cause wherever they go.

What I want you to know is that there are some important steps to dealing with the wounds narcissists leave behind so that you can move on with life. And here they are:

1. You don’t need to be fixed or saved. It was the narcissist who was broken, which is why they are beyond loving or help and anyone who tries ends up getting hurt – as you did. To them, you are just prey, not a partner. Therefore, your love was misdirected, and they were always going to exploit you.

2. Run and don’t look back because the farther you are from a narcissist, the better off you will be. This might sound a little dramatic, but you cannot be above crossing state and international borders to distance yourself from the soul-sucking toxicity the narcissists can bring into your life. Even when they feign remorse, don’t fall for it. They are bound to pretend when they realize they are about to lose you.

3. Forgive yourself. This might be harder than you think, but you have to give it a try because it is very important. If you focus on forgiving the narcissist, it will feel like you have somehow given them a pass for their behavior because they did not even ask for forgiveness. They can fake an apology to keep you around, but they can never be truly sorry. So, what’s important is to forgive yourself for failing to see that you were falling for a narcissist.

Finally, let me tell you this – I have healed many wounds. And I can honestly tell you that these three steps were clearly the most important of all, as they helped me recover from the damage narcissists had done on me. When I look back, I am glad I took these important steps because I am now happy and free.

I can even say that my encounter with narcissists allowed me to meet the greatest person in my life – me! I want the same for you.  

Yours lovingly,

An Overcomer.