Independence and strength are two things that define us as women. But these virtues can be both a blessing an a curse. We are able to react the way we should, and but not always the way we would like. And more often than not, we completely neglect the need to heal emotionally once we are bruised.
Did you just break up with your lover? No problem, you can have another in an instant. Are your grades not good enough? That’s not an issue, there is a next time.
Naturally, you should feel sad, frustrated, anxious and down in the dumps after going through such crappy experiences. But most of us don’t, we are way 'too strong' for that.
But the reality is that we are still bruised emotionally in one way or another, and it’s okay if we break down so that we can heal.
Healing emotionally is possible, and here’s how to do it.
Whoever is there for you to open up to, let them in on what you are going through. Have a talk with someone you trust and are comfortable around. Let it be someone who cares about your feelings. Always giving more than you can offer can drain you and deny you a much-needed opportunity to heal. Receiving love, care, and an honest opinion that helps you recover from your pain can be cathartic.
Do you show as much love as you feel? Most people don’t, because fear is what rules over them. Generally, love, whether you are receiving or giving it, scares you. But you should embrace it. Accept the love your family and friends give you, and give love if you can, especially to yourself. Let the healing power of love into your life, and you will be fine.
The benefits of staying positive have been emphasized again and again. There is nothing wrong with that – after all, who can stand a pessimist? But there comes a time when being sad is justified. After you and your boyfriend call it quits, ditch your friends, get into sweat pants and listen to sad breakup songs and cry on your couch as you enjoy that tub of ice cream. Allow yourself to feel sad because that is the only way the sadness will start to leave you and you will start to heal emotionally.
Life is not a straight path – accept that. There will be ups and downs, and you should learn to embrace them all. Be proud of how far you have come, and the experiences that have helped you get where you are today. Your grief should be seen as moments of growth, and the satisfaction of knowing that you grew in the process should help you heal. There is no greater pride than knowing that you made it despite everything that you went through.
Some situations make you lose yourself. But you can build yourself up again, and even create a better you in the process. One way to go about it is to come up with a list of what you can improve on, and you will heal faster and more permanently in the process.