30 Best Quotes On Narcissism

Narcissism impacts our lives in many ways. We all know of at least one, be it in a working environment or in a personal relationship.

Writers and poets have talked about them through time. Some inspire us, and some awaken us to the reality of the trauma they invoke in our lives.

Here are 30 of the best quotes written over time:

“Nice people don't necessarily fall in love with nice people.” 

― Jonathan Franzen

“I don't care what you think unless it is about me.” 

― Kurt Cobain

“Stay away from lazy parasites, who perch on you just to satisfy their needs, they do not come to alleviate your burdens, hence, their mission is to distract, detract and extract, and make you live in abject poverty.” 

― Michael Bassey Johnson

“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. . . They justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.”

— T.S. Elliott

“Underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being ordinary.”

— Brené Brown

“Lies don't end relationships the truth does.” 

― Shannon L. Alder

“Gaslighting is when you don’t remember things the same as they do.” 

― Tracy Malone

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive."

— Susan Williams

“Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders . . . but by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.”

— Jeffrey Kluger

“How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.”

— Amanda Torroni

“If you want to go from being adored to devalued in the blink of an eye, simply insult the narcissist.”

— Tigress Luv

“The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.” 

― Ramani Durvasula

“I think future generations are going to look back at our time period and call this the Age of Narcissism.” 

― Oliver Markus Malloy

“Sugar is for the body as narcissism is for the soul. Both pleasures kill.” 

― Robin Sacredfire

“But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves.” 

― Ellie Fox

“A narcissist, on the other hand, is the exact opposite of an empath. Emotionally, narcissists are like brick walls who see and hear others but fail to understand or relate to them. As a result of their emotional shallowness, narcissists are essentially devoid of all empathy or compassion for other people. Lacking empathy, a narcissist is a very destructive and dangerous person to be around.” 

― Mateo Sol

“No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood.”

— Samuel Lopez de Victoria

“The best way to upset a narcissist is by ignoring him.”

— J.B. Snow

“Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time. . . . ‘Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this?’ Until we can uninstall the narcissist-filter, our actions are controlled by narcissists to some degree.”

— Sam Vaknin

“Abuse is never deserved, it is an exploitation of innocence and physical disadvantage, which is perceived as an opportunity by the abuser.” 

― Lorraine Nilon

“(a quote from a survivor) Read up on the psychology of abuse. Listen to music. Being alone to process without chatter. Usually outside doing something physical, doing these things helps you believe you CAN do anything. Share my story without shame.” 

― Shahida Arabi

“When people don't tell you the truth what they really are saying is they don't value you or their relationship with you enough to be honest.” 

― Shannon L. Alder

“He is such a child underneath all his alpha male bravado. A selfish child who thinks everything in the whole world is meant for him.” 

― Amy Engel

“An abuser's psychological diagnosis isn't the problem. Their sense of entitlement is.” 

― Caroline Abbott

“A man who loves others based solely on how they make him feel, or what they do for him, is really not loving others at all - but loving only himself.” 

― Criss Jami

“Out of all the addictions in the world, Attention is slowly but surely becoming one of the most dangerous.” 

― Saahil Prem

“Narcissism is, indeed, the new world order.” 

― Ramani Durvasula

“I bet it gets pretty lonely with only your ego for company.” 

― Alexandra Bracken

“Social Media is a shared delusion of grandeur.” 

― Michael P. Naughton

“Half of the people lie with their lips; the other half with their tears” 

― Nassim Nicholas Taleb